Empower Your Dating Life

Is it okay to ask a Christian guy if he’s interested in me or wants to date? If it is please then tell me how to do it.

Here’s our background.

I’m a 47 year old single Christian woman. He’s a 50 year old divorced Christian man. He was married 14 years ago but is divorced and has dated since then.

We went out twice for lunch and chatted via texts.

Was supposed to meet last Sunday for a short walk but he has been busy with looking at open houses. He got a pre approved mortgage and it’s taking up a lot of his free time.

I’m just curious to know how I find out if he’s interested in more than friendship. Is it okay to ask him if he’s interested in me and wants to date? Is it too early to ask him? Or is it wiser to just wait and see what happens?

If it is okay to ask him please tell me how I should do that.

Thank you. ~S

Hi S,

Thank you for your question.

Can you ask if he wants to date? Yes, you can but there is a much safer, less threatening and more effective way to do it.

Let me explain.

It isn’t just finding out if he wants to take your relationship to the next level by adding romance to it. It’s doing it with class, style and dignity without compromising your self respect or your integrity.

You want him to know you’re a quality woman looking for an honest relationship with a quality man that could lead to something serious if everything works out. As an intelligent woman you want him to know you have high moral standards, too.

Here’s how you do that.

Ask him what he likes to do in his spare time. Find something he enjoys doing that you enjoy doing. That’s the key: that you both enjoy doing it so you’ll both have fun. Then just find that activity in your area.

Let’s say, for the sake of example, you both like museums. When you talk with him again say, “I found this museum I think we’d both enjoy. Maybe we could go there sometime.” And see what he says.

The wonderful thing about handling the situation this way is you’re not technically asking him out so he can’t technically reject you.

His response will give you all the answers you want, need and desire about whether or not you can take your relationship with him to the next level, which is adding romance to it.

The important thing is whatever activity you choose make absolutely certain you do it in the daytime, not nighttime. Why? Because daytime is less threatening and it gives you a low key way to get to know each other.

Don’t let the good things in life rob you of the best things in life.

~Bryan Redfield

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