I love my husband but he says he can’t stop drinking and he doesn’t want to. How can I help him? He’s not abusive. I just don’t want him to hurt himself. ~G Hi G, I was a bartender in Hollywood for 14 years. During that time I served non drinkers, light drinkers, heavy drinkers … More Drinking or Marital Death? Your Choice
Why can’t I ever get a second date with the same guy? I’m doing great at getting a first date, but I’ve been getting ghosted within a few days after every time. What am I doing wrong? ~K Hi K, I’ve heard women ask me this question enough times now that I thought it was … More The Dating Game is Changing
Why doesn’t my boyfriend like to cuddle anymore? We used to cuddle frequently but we have lived together for eight years now and he just never seems interested anymore. Can I do something to make him want to cuddle me again? ~L Hi L, There are three kinds of cuddling: After sex Cuddling as foreplay … More From Cuddle Bug to Cuddle Loner
How do you communicate with someone who has adult-diagnosed ADHD and is very insecure? My husband refuses to listen to or believe me when I try to offer him any kind of fact, but if someone else tells him the same fact, their word is believed immediately. The few days of the week that I’m … More A Deficit of Attention Will Lead to a Marriage Deficit
I connected with a friend who I hadn’t seen for a few years. We did Reiki shares at a common friend’s home. This friend, Jim, is 13 years older, age 74. So we started doing things together. I feel as friends, but soon he was trying to kiss me. I didn’t feel a similar interest, … More Hot and Heavy or Hopeless?
This time of year is really stressful for my husband and myself – our relationship with his parents is so difficult because we feel that his mother criticizes everything. Any advice on how to stay chill and not let her ruin the wonderful season? Thank you! ~S Hi S, Thank you for your question.You are … More Holiday Humble Pie
Question: How do I get people to listen to me without being a B? Not like command, just LISTEN. I have a soft voice so I think that has something to do with it. I get talked over a lot and it’s very annoying. ~J Hi J, Thank you for contacting me. You didn’t mention … More Sound Like a Lamb, But Be a Lioness
Welcome! This blog is the home of Bryan Redfield, your new favorite advice columnist for all things relating to human relationships and interactions. Have you got problems in your relationship? Are you afraid you’re seeing signs that your partner isn’t the right one for you? Are you worried about the stability of your marriage? Do … More Introduction
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